Self Love and Self Destruction https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/t1425 Runboard| Self Love and Self Destruction en-us Thu, 28 Mar 2024 15:33:10 +0000 Thu, 28 Mar 2024 15:33:10 +0000 https://www.runboard.com/ rssfeeds_managingeditor@runboard.com (Runboard.com RSS feeds managing editor) rssfeeds_webmaster@runboard.com (Runboard.com RSS feeds webmaster) akBBS 60 Self Love and Self Destructionhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p11703,from=rss#post11703https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p11703,from=rss#post11703Question: If narcissists love themselves and are so self-centered, why do they have all these self-destructive and self-defeating behaviors? Isn't it a contradiction? Answer: There are two important differences between healthy self-love and malignant narcissism: (a) in the ability to tell reality from fantasy, and (b) in the ability to empathise and, indeed, to fully and maturely love others. As we said, the narcissist possesses no self-love. It is because he has very little True Self to love. Instead, a monstrous, malignant construct – the False Self – encroaches upon his True Self and devours it. The narcissist loves an image which he projects unto others and which is affirmed by them. The projected image is reflected by others to the narcissist and, thus, he is reassured both of its existence and of the boundaries of his Ego. This continuous process blurs all distinctions between reality and fantasy. Continue to read this article here (click on this link): http://samvak.tripod.com/7.html nondisclosed_email@example.com (samvaknin)Fri, 26 Dec 2008 09:25:56 +0000