How Do You Define Your Worth? https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/t16462 Runboard| How Do You Define Your Worth? en-us Thu, 28 Mar 2024 16:39:47 +0000 Thu, 28 Mar 2024 16:39:47 +0000 https://www.runboard.com/ rssfeeds_managingeditor@runboard.com (Runboard.com RSS feeds managing editor) rssfeeds_webmaster@runboard.com (Runboard.com RSS feeds webmaster) akBBS 60 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p183971,from=rss#post183971https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p183971,from=rss#post183971bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (WhatincriminysHappened)Tue, 03 Apr 2012 20:39:08 +0000 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181051,from=rss#post181051https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181051,from=rss#post181051quote:Most of us grow up learning to define our worth by how we look, by our achievements, and by the approval we get for our looks or achievements. This is a hard way to live because you have to constantly make sure that you are living up to some standard that society has set, and at any moment you can be plunged into low self-esteem by disapproval, rejection, and failure. By making your worth dependent on others and outcomes, you are constantly insecure.nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Sat, 03 Mar 2012 16:22:11 +0000 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p163867,from=rss#post163867https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p163867,from=rss#post163867Great article! I am definitely working on being loving toward myself rather than trying to be deserving of love. quote:If you make being loving rather than getting love your highest priority, you will find yourself feeling deeply lovable and worthy.nondisclosed_email@example.com (Mildred H)Sun, 25 Sep 2011 00:34:40 +0000 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p163813,from=rss#post163813https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p163813,from=rss#post163813quote:I am always amazed the way that some people have the knack for confronting others lovingly. They address their own needs within the conflict but still manage to dignify the other person with a loving approach. Most of all they stay centered and true and of course loving to themselves. Mother called that "Grace, under pressure" :heart: Deedeenondisclosed_email@example.com (deedee1950)Fri, 23 Sep 2011 16:55:45 +0000 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p163800,from=rss#post163800https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p163800,from=rss#post163800Good article Lynn. Thank younondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Fri, 23 Sep 2011 13:14:20 +0000 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p156985,from=rss#post156985https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p156985,from=rss#post156985A very good article Lynn, thankyou for posting it. I am always amazed the way that some people have the knack for confronting others lovingly. They address their own needs within the conflict but still manage to dignify the other person with a loving approach. Most of all they stay centered and true and of course loving to themselves. This is something I really want to start practising. SRPnondisclosed_email@example.com (Softrosepetals)Sun, 19 Jun 2011 05:07:06 +0000 Re: How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p156959,from=rss#post156959https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p156959,from=rss#post156959I changed the link I initially found (which didn't work in the end) to one that provides the full article. Lynnnondisclosed_email@example.com (LynnS)Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:49:00 +0000 How Do You Define Your Worth?https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p156957,from=rss#post156957https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p156957,from=rss#post156957Great article by one of my favorite recovery authors, Margaret Paul: How Do You Define Your Worth? Excerpt: quote:Loving action toward others is never about giving yourself up. Giving yourself up is not loving to yourself and is therefore not loving action. Each time you take loving action - by what you say to yourself and others and how you treat yourself and others - notice how you feel inside. If you feel happy and full inside, then you know that the action you took was loving. If you feel bad inside - empty, anxious, angry, depressed, guilty - then you know that there is some way you are abandoning yourself. If you make being loving rather than getting love your highest priority, you will find yourself feeling deeply lovable and worthy. Do you find yourself defining your own worth in accordance with external factors? Lynnnondisclosed_email@example.com (LynnS)Sat, 18 Jun 2011 17:41:56 +0000