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50 Signs of an Abusive Relationship


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What are the signs of an abusive relationship? What are the warning signs of domestic abuse and domestic violence? Am I being abused? Is this abuse?

To the average person, asking yourself "am I being abused?" or not knowing if you are being abused seems strange, but many people who are in abusive relationships have been experiencing some sort of abuse since early childhood. If you’ve been exposed to abusive behavior for years, you can become accustomed to it. It’s your “normal” in life. So living with an abuser seems perfectly acceptable.
 
That’s why many victims are shocked when they finally realize they are being abused. Below are some questions for you to answer. The more you answer “yes” to these signs of an abusive relationship, the higher the possibility that you are in an abusive relationship.
50 Questions to Ask Yourself

[sign in to see URL] your partner have a bad temper?
[sign in to see URL] you live in fear of your partner?
 [sign in to see URL] it feel like you have to walk on “egg shells” at times so he/she will not explode?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner threatened to harm you, the children, pets, or anything else?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner violent toward you or the children?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner ever threatened to kill you?
[sign in to see URL] your partner ever physically hurt you?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner ever made a gesture of harm toward you? For example: put hands around your neck, or imitated holding a knife or gun?
 [sign in to see URL] you fear going home?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner unpredictable?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner threatened to take your children away (especially if you have tried to leave the relationship)?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner tried convincing you that he or she will report you, or prove that you are an unfit parent, and take the kids away permanently if you leave?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner cruel to animals?
 [sign in to see URL] they destroy your property or your children’s?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner destroyed household or work-related property?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner ever threatened to commit suicide, especially if you try to leave?
 [sign in to see URL] they ever abandoned you, left you places, or locked you out?
 [sign in to see URL] you afraid they may kill you?
 [sign in to see URL] you feel emotionally numb?
 [sign in to see URL] you feel that there is nowhere to turn for help?
 [sign in to see URL] you feel you are alone, helpless, trapped, isolated?
[sign in to see URL] your partner completely control you?
 [sign in to see URL] you blame yourself for the abuse?
 [sign in to see URL] they tell you that you caused him/her to abuse you or the children?
 [sign in to see URL] they blame the violence on stress, alcohol, drugs, money worries, work problems, house not clean, bad behavior of the children, etc?
 [sign in to see URL] seeking medical help, do you lie about the bruising, broken bones, stab wounds, etc?
[sign in to see URL] you lie about your partner’s real behavior?
 [sign in to see URL] you believe that you are the crazy one in the family?
[sign in to see URL] you believe that you may be overreacting to your partner’s abusive behavior? Do you minimize it?
 [sign in to see URL] you feel as if you can never do anything right for your partner?
 [sign in to see URL] you live in fear that they will take your children from you?
[sign in to see URL] you feel that the only way out of your relationship is if your partner is dead; do you fantasize about killing your partner?
 [sign in to see URL] you take the brunt of the abuse so that the children don’t have to?
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Re: 50 Signs of an Abusive Relationship


[sign in to see URL] they keep you from seeing friends and family? Keep you from working? Keep you from volunteering?
 [sign in to see URL] you embarrassed or humiliated about your partner’s behavior and because of that, do not invite people over?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner ever stopped you from doing what you want to do?
[sign in to see URL] they question where you have been or where you’re going?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner jealous or possessive? Does your partner check up on you?
[sign in to see URL] your partner limit the time you can go places? (For example: you can go to the market but must come straight home. You’re given no more than 30 minutes.)
 [sign in to see URL] your partner continually accuse you of having an affair?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner abuse you verbally?
 [sign in to see URL] they embarrass you, harass you, or criticize you in front of others?
 [sign in to see URL] they minimize, mock, or insult what you think or say?
[sign in to see URL] you abused as a child, or did you grow up with domestic violence in the household?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner abused as a child, or grew up with domestic violence in the household?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner have low self-esteem?
 [sign in to see URL] your partner kind, giving, or loving after a bout of violence?
 [sign in to see URL] they made promises to change?
 [sign in to see URL] they promised “never to do it again?”
 [sign in to see URL] your partner promised to get help “if” you come back?
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