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How can you tell a TRUE friend from a FAKE one?


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Guest Author Sam Vaknin:
“How can you tell a TRUE friend from a FAKE one?”

Posted on Wednesday, April 2, 2014 by Alison

 
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A TRUE friend supports you only when he believes that you are doing the right thing in your self-interest and welfare;

A FAKE friend supports you always, no matter what you do.

A TRUE friend respects you only when you have earned respect and act respectably;

A FAKE friend “respects” you regardless of your behavior – or misbehaviour.

A TRUE friend trusts you only as long as you prove yourself trustworthy, only while you do not put his trust to the test too often, and only on certain issues;

A FAKE friend “trusts” you with everything and always.

To summarize:

A TRUE friend puts to you a mirror in which you see REALITY and the TRUTH.

A FAKE friend puts to you a mirror in which you see your own reflection, yourself and nothing else besides.

A TRUE friend loves YOU in your friendship. He loves YOU even without your friendship.

A FAKE friend loves HIMSELF in your friendship – or loves the friendship itself, but never YOU.

With a TRUE friend you need never ask: “What is he getting out of this relationship?” for loving you is its own reward.

With a FAKE friend you must always ask “Why is he still in this relationship?” for loving you is never enough of a reward.

by Guest Author Sam Vaknin, the author of Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain – How the West Lost the East, as well as many other books and ebooks about topics in psychology, relationships, philosophy, economics, and international affairs. He is the Editor-in-Chief of Global Politician and served as a columnist for Central Europe Review, PopMatters, eBookWeb , and Bellaonline, and as a United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Correspondent. He was the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

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Read “I have friends who bring me down.”

Read Sam Vaknin’s “I Attract Abusers Like a Magnet.”

Read “Ten Keys to a Great Relationship: ‘The magic is gone.’”




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