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20 Sudden and Hidden Signs of Identifying a Psychopath Narcissist


Posted on December 27, 2017 by infoadmin
20 SUBTLE AND HIDDEN SIGNS OF IDENTIFYING A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST
Invisibility is the most disturbing thing about psychopathy.
Psychopaths must keep their true nature hidden, and they know how to do so. They’re skilled and successful actors and mimics. After all, they can only dupe us if they can first make us believe they’re honest, genuine, and trustworthy. To do that, they have to come across as “normal.” When they slip up, they’re good at explaining it away, distracting us, or shifting the blame.

I’ve written many things on this site about how to identify a psychopath, and I’m adding more to that with this article. But caution is advised. Psychopaths may not give us the clues we expect, or we may miss those clues because they’re so good at concealing them. While our experience and knowledge are sure to protect us to some extent, over-confidence is never a good idea. Even Dr. Robert Hare, psychopathy expert, admits that with all his experience he could still be duped by a predatory psychopath. “In short interactions,” he says, “anyone can be duped.”

Not all of following signs will pertain to every psychopath, so don’t rely on them. Some are backed by research and others are anecdotal. Keeping that in mind, here’s the list.

Identifying a Psychopath: 20 Subtle and Hidden Signs

1. They have a black-leather toughness combined with boyish innocence, according to psychologist Kevin Dutton. This doesn’t mean the psychopath will literally dress in black leather. It’s more of a feeling that he or she is street-smart or has been around the block more than a few times, while at the same time you sense a girlish or boyish innocence.



2. They embody incongruity. This is a big one. The example above is one possible manifestation of an overall pattern of incongruity or contradiction the psychopath usually displays. He or she may contradict themselves from one sentence to the next…or it may take a few weeks or months for a completely different point of view to emerge. He may express seemingly deep sympathy for the plight of the homeless, and then question contemptuously how anyone could become so ‘worthless’ (as mine did). The incongruity could also be subtly apparent in their mannerisms, which you might notice as a feeling that they’re intriguing for some reason, but you can’t quite put your finger on why. This pattern of incongruity runs throughout all aspects of their behavior. A classic example is the hot-cold-hot-cold ‘feelings’ they have for us. Watch for incongruity, and run far and fast if you see it.



3. They exude a subtle but definite air of confidence and superiority. Their body language reads as: ‘Haughty.’ Not all the time, but you may see flashes of it now and then, and feel it’s out of character. Their physical posture gives off vibes of superiority, hidden powers and amused indifference, says author and psychopath or narcissist Sam Vaknin. The psychopath I knew exuded this from every pore… while somehow seeming humble at the same time (see #2).

4. They tell you stories of shady or unsavory things they engaged in ‘in the past.’ Psychopaths love to tell the tales of their business or sexual exploits, while convincing you they’re not ‘that way’ any longer.

5. Needs little sleep. Psychopaths are always on the go in their quest for excitement. They’re busy, busy, busy. They may sleep just 4 or 5 hours per night.

6. They sometimes exhibit unconvincing emotional responses. Most of the time they may come across as genuine, but at other times you may get the feeling that they’re a bit ‘off,’ or even engaging in poor play-acting. This includes facial expressions. For example, they look sad but the corners of their mouth are turned up just a little too much.



7. They can go from rage to complete calm in a minute. Emotions are shallow and short-lived for a psychopath. One of the only emotions they can truly feel is rage, but even it is short lived.

8. They will drop ‘hints’ of their true nature, but in a veiled manner. These hints are also called ‘tells.’ For example, if a psychopath is taking advantage of your trusting nature, he may say “You would be so easy for a con artist to dupe, because you’re way too trusting.” Or you might hear “I used to play with women’s minds. I was such a bastard.” Or “Do you think there are aliens inhabiting human bodies among us? I feel like one.” Or “You need to be careful, because the devil can present himself as your best friend.”

Why do they do this? When psychopaths put one over on someone, they experience duping delight, which is pleasure at having someone within their control and being able to manipulate them. Or they may do it to add a little more excitement to their ‘game,’ because it increases the odds that they could get caught. When they do this, it usually means they’re bored and getting ready to move on.

9. Flashes of contempt. When interacting with a psychopath, you may notice quick flashes of contempt on their face that are unrelated to the conversation or anything else at hand. Contempt is defined as the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn. Psychopaths are contemptuous by nature. Microexpressions — facial expressions that happen so fast they’re easy to miss — can leak and reveal a person’s real feelings. Dr. Paul Eckman, leading microexpression researcher, says “Contempt is a feeling of being better than another person, of being superior, usually morally superior but it can also be felt toward some who is weaker in intelligence, strength, and so forth. Basically, contempt is devaluing another person and overvaluing your self.”




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10. They have deviant sexual desires, and they want you to fulfill them whether you want to or not. Plenty of normal people have these desires, too, but a psychopath will be more aggressive in fulfilling them. “Individuals with deviant sexual preferences and normal levels of empathy, kindness, and self-control have many strategies for satisfying their needs, including negotiation, compromise, and restraint; however, individuals with high levels of psychopathic traits might turn to sexually aggressive strategies to attain gratification.” Science 2.0: In Psychopaths, The Line Between Fantasy And Reality Is Thin

11. They have a poor sense of smell. “Individuals who scored highly on psychopathic traits were more likely to struggle to both identify smells and tell the difference between smells, even though they knew they were smelling something,” according to findings by researchers Mehmet Mahmut and Richard Stevenson, from Macquarie University in Australia.



12. Their speech is filled with disfluencies. Psychopaths may use phrases like “uh” or “umm” a lot to break up their speech. The exact reason for this isn’t clear, but researchers speculate that they might be trying harder to make a positive impression, needing more mental effort and time to frame a story.
Unfortunately, this is not one of the signs

13. They can’t describe an emotion or their personal experience of one. Psychopaths fail to understand the fundamental nature of emotions, such as fear or love. Psychopaths can mimic an emotion or tell you they’re experiencing it, but if you dig deeper and ask them to describe how they feel, they’ll become lost or even frustrated. They’re like a blind person trying to understand what others mean when they talk about color. One reader told me that after her psychopathic ‘boyfriend’ told her he loved her, she asked him what love meant to him. After giving it some thought, he said “If you and I were stranded alone together on another planet, I probably wouldn’t want to kill you.”

Here’s an example from Dr. Hare in his book Without Conscience. He describes an interview with a psychopathic offender who can’t seem to understand the fundamental nature of fear:

“When I rob a bank,” he said, “I notice that the teller shakes or becomes tongue-tied. One barfed all over the money. She must have been pretty messed up inside, but I don’t know why. If someone pointed a gun at me, I guess I’d be afraid but I wouldn’t throw up.” When asked to describe how he would feel in such a situation, his reply contained no references to body sensations. He said things such as, “I’d give you the money”; “I’d think of ways to get the drop on you”; “I’d try and get my ass out of there.” When asked again how he would feel, not what he would think or do, he seemed perplexed. Asked if he ever felt his heart pound or his stomach churn, he replied, “Of course! I’m not a robot. I really get pumped up when I have sex or when I get into a fight.”

14. They have a reduced startle response. This is apparently related to decreased activity in the amygdala, a structure in the brain related to fear and other emotions. If you’re walking down the street with a beau and s/he doesn’t flinch when a car backfires, watch out.

15. They participate in dangerous or extreme sports and activities. Psychopaths may get their thrills from flying lessons, BASE jumping, brain surgery (hopefully only if they’re a qualified neurosurgeon!), driving fast, juggling machetes, having sex in public, or carelessly cheating on their wives. In order to feel excitement, psychopaths need high risk and intensity.

16. They invade your personal space. We all have a certain distance we keep between ourselves or others, which is usually culturally determined. But the psychopath may stand close, within your personal space. Surprisingly, research results found that coldheartedness was the a significant predictor of preferred distance, with higher scores associated with preference for shorter distances. The study’s authors said, “Consistent with our hypothesis, results showed that coldheartedness scores (which index interpersonal callousness) significantly predicted preferred distance, with more callous participants showing a preference for shorter distances. We speculate that interpersonal distance preferences of highly callous individuals may mediate the relationship between callous traits and aggression, by producing behaviors that facilitate aggressive behavior.” Don’t Stand So Close To Me: Psychopathy and The Regulation of Interpersonal Distance



17. They have an eerily calm demeanor.

18. The have a saintly aura. Of course, it’s one they create for themselves. They may engage in phony altruism by donating to or volunteering for a cause, or hand out dollars to needy people on the street. If you weren’t there to witness it, they’ll be sure to tell you all about it later while smiling beatifically and waiting for your admiration.

19. Their speech is prolific and possibly even poetic. As master wordsmiths, they can deliver running monologues that are frequently intriguing. Or they may deliver a soliloquy like an actor alone on a stage, and ignore your attempts to respond.

20. They have little to no body odor. This is purely anecdotal. Many of them shower frequently and may even carry deodorant and an extra shirt. Some seem naturally fresh-smelling, even after running a 5K or engaging in marathon sex.

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