FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteem https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/t4139 Runboard| FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteem en-us Thu, 28 Mar 2024 15:14:57 +0000 Thu, 28 Mar 2024 15:14:57 +0000 https://www.runboard.com/ rssfeeds_managingeditor@runboard.com (Runboard.com RSS feeds managing editor) rssfeeds_webmaster@runboard.com (Runboard.com RSS feeds webmaster) akBBS 60 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p183981,from=rss#post183981https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p183981,from=rss#post183981bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (WhatincriminysHappened)Tue, 03 Apr 2012 21:11:34 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181409,from=rss#post181409https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181409,from=rss#post181409Ostrich, Congratulations!! You have come a long way and I am proud of you! Hugs, True nondisclosed_email@example.com (TrueLove64Illusion11)Tue, 06 Mar 2012 17:48:52 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181407,from=rss#post181407https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181407,from=rss#post181407In November I scored 86 and today I scored 93. I guess I am making progress..... True :xwow nondisclosed_email@example.com (TrueLove64Illusion11)Tue, 06 Mar 2012 17:34:08 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181391,from=rss#post181391https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181391,from=rss#post18139144 o_O More than I expected but still pretty darn low. :xxelp nondisclosed_email@example.com (PhoenixRising77)Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:34:04 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181385,from=rss#post181385https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181385,from=rss#post181385Cool! the first time I took this test was June 10 2010, and I scored 54% I just took it again Mar 6, 2012, and scored an 94% I must be doing something right I guess doing the hard work, maintaining 100% NoContact, staying single while I recovered, getting to know Ostrich, and getting to indifference about N, and facing my FOO issues paid off :clapwshout Thanks for bumping AD   nondisclosed_email@example.com (ostrich)Tue, 06 Mar 2012 13:10:16 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181384,from=rss#post181384https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p181384,from=rss#post181384  nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Tue, 06 Mar 2012 12:22:19 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p166966,from=rss#post166966https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p166966,from=rss#post166966I scored an 86 which really surprised me. I guess I will survive after all. Maybe I am just hard-headed. Truenondisclosed_email@example.com (TrueLove64Illusion11)Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:38:58 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p166963,from=rss#post166963https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p166963,from=rss#post166963bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:37:22 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p154860,from=rss#post154860https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p154860,from=rss#post154860 :flower: nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Tue, 24 May 2011 18:48:23 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p143822,from=rss#post143822https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p143822,from=rss#post143822bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (Had Enough9)Sun, 26 Dec 2010 11:29:01 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p142825,from=rss#post142825https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p142825,from=rss#post142825  nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Wed, 08 Dec 2010 09:30:17 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p135827,from=rss#post135827https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p135827,from=rss#post135827  nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Thu, 02 Sep 2010 12:28:46 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128399,from=rss#post128399https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128399,from=rss#post128399Thanks Lynne My self esteem test = 54%...just over half way there... but still a long way to go... wow...I really thought I was doing better than I actually am, simply because I am over the XN...but coming back to the board has opened my eyes that I am so not tapping into my own potential and living my life to the fullest. Time to roll up sleeves and get down the the serious business of inner Ostrich work! The hard part is over...but now the real work begins. nondisclosed_email@example.com (ostrich)Thu, 10 Jun 2010 11:19:19 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128374,from=rss#post128374https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128374,from=rss#post128374Thank you for posting these articles. They are definitely helping me and I will continue to study them. My score: 45 According to this test, you have a reasonably high level of self-esteem. There is, however, still some room for improvement. You seem to experience some doubt about your own abilities, occasional feelings of inadequacy and possibly even question your own self-worth from time to time. Essentially, you sometimes get caught up in a vicious circle; if you believe that you cannot do something, your belief causes you to think and behave in a way that leads to your eventual failure. Although your self-esteem is generally healthy, and some insecurity is normal, it certainly can't hurt to give your confidence a boost.nondisclosed_email@example.com (anewme)Thu, 10 Jun 2010 08:06:29 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128365,from=rss#post128365https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128365,from=rss#post12836565%, more work to do!!nondisclosed_email@example.com (FGB)Thu, 10 Jun 2010 07:29:59 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128356,from=rss#post128356https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128356,from=rss#post128356My score 19% guess I have alot of work to do on me.nondisclosed_email@example.com (msnala)Thu, 10 Jun 2010 06:52:14 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128306,from=rss#post128306https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128306,from=rss#post128306Results of your Self-Esteem Test   Self-Esteem Index   Your score = 80 What does your score mean? According to this test, you have high self-esteem. You recognize your inner value and it shows in your personal life, relationships and career/school success. You exude confidence, which is very attractive, and believe enough in yourself to pursue things whole-heartedly. Such a healthy self-esteem allows you to "be yourself", handle stress effectively and maintain an overall sense of well-being. You should value and nurture this quality; it will get you far in life. Way to go! HALLELUJA!! nondisclosed_email@example.com (Keepontruckin)Wed, 09 Jun 2010 18:59:27 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128145,from=rss#post128145https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p128145,from=rss#post128145Bump :flower: nondisclosed_email@example.com (LynnS)Tue, 08 Jun 2010 14:37:05 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p119665,from=rss#post119665https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p119665,from=rss#post119665Are You Abusive to Yourself? Often we allow people into our lives who treat us as we expect to be treated. If we feel contempt for ourselves or think very little of ourselves, we may pick partners or significant others who reflect this image back to us. If we are willing to tolerate negative treatment from others, or treat others in negative ways, it is possible that we also treat ourselves similarly. If you are an abuser or a recipient, you may want to consider how you treat yourself. What sorts of things do you say to yourself? Do thoughts such as "I'm stupid" or "I never do anything right" dominate your thinking? Learning to love and care for ourselves increases self-esteem and makes it more likely that we will have healthy, intimate relationships. very true!nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Sat, 10 Apr 2010 19:04:56 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p107325,from=rss#post107325https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p107325,from=rss#post107325  nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Mon, 11 Jan 2010 15:25:51 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p96892,from=rss#post96892https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p96892,from=rss#post96892  nondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Fri, 06 Nov 2009 10:54:28 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95367,from=rss#post95367https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95367,from=rss#post95367This is a great post and truly informative. i am 50 yrs old and have, for the past 3 years, only just started to build the life I envisioned for myself. It took so much for me to break out of decades of emotional abuse. Going nc was hard at first, but not having abusers in my life has helped me grow without sabotage and to focus on what my gifts are in this life. I never thought I would get to this point of healing, but now I can say that I don't want to go back and deal with my abusers. I feel as if I am at the point where I want to focus on my goals and I don't care about them. This is huge for me. It is also new, and it comes from some successes in my life that would never have been possible if I stayed in their emotional clutches.nondisclosed_email@example.com (GoldWaterFlashing)Wed, 28 Oct 2009 21:38:47 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95362,from=rss#post95362https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95362,from=rss#post95362Thank you for bumping this up. I needed the information. Didn't do good on the test...a 53 I think. But, I'm working on it! :thumbsup: nondisclosed_email@example.com (Growing Strong)Wed, 28 Oct 2009 20:44:19 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95352,from=rss#post95352https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95352,from=rss#post95352I was happy to score a 90 on the self esteem test. Three or more years ago I believe it would have been only half or less. Being out and away from the xnh and in a loving relationship has helped me to mend and to feel good about my life. NC and getting away from these disordered people who want to kill our souls is the only solution to creating a new life. It is the first major big step. Hugs, Had Enoughnondisclosed_email@example.com (Had Enough9)Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:38:39 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95351,from=rss#post95351https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95351,from=rss#post95351This information is invaluable Lynn! Thank you so much for posting this for us to read. You are the greatest! Had Enoughnondisclosed_email@example.com (Had Enough9)Wed, 28 Oct 2009 19:33:58 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95336,from=rss#post95336https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95336,from=rss#post95336 :heart: nondisclosed_email@example.com (Keepontruckin)Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:48:19 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95265,from=rss#post95265https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p95265,from=rss#post95265Bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (LynnS)Wed, 28 Oct 2009 07:26:15 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p51996,from=rss#post51996https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p51996,from=rss#post51996bump nondisclosed_email@example.com (FeelingSoStrong)Mon, 30 Mar 2009 19:11:00 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p48665,from=rss#post48665https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p48665,from=rss#post48665bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (wasiused)Fri, 20 Mar 2009 05:05:50 +0000 Re: FOCUS ON OURSELVES: Self-Esteemhttps://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p43930,from=rss#post43930https://bnarcissisticabuserecovery.runboard.com/p43930,from=rss#post43930bumpnondisclosed_email@example.com (Affectionatedragon)Mon, 09 Mar 2009 13:34:00 +0000