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Re: What If He Changes? The Hole in the N's Bucket


Bump :flower:

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Thank you Lynn
Struggling today.
This helps.
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I saw your thread wondering why he couldn't change, jilly, so I bumped this one. Glad it helped.

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Thank you Lynn.

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You're welcome, Suzanne. emoticon

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Me too, LYNN, thanks.

I've been doubting lately because he looks so happy now - doing all the things are wanted him to do with me . for me and the kids.

Outside appearances after 2 years with her so far make him look like he is the norman one and I am the failure.

I needed to read this today and I need to internalize it for sure.
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bump again

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thanks for reposting this it has been great timing for me and my family.

It seems he was at a crossroads after almost 2 years post separation and decided to go to the OW instead of therapy, and I was surprised. I honestly thought that he would want to change and take the harder road to keep me.

I waited patiently because that's what I do best.
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Thanks Lynn
I woke up this morning feeling sad about the lies and deceit. I dont care that he doesnt love me anymore, its the lies and deceit that rip me apart. Then I imagined him with the OW, living as the happy family, with her two kids out in the country, and I hate them both. I convince myself that he has changed for her and that they will live the happy-ever-after life that was supposed to be mine.
But in my rational mind I know that he is putting on an act for her, I know that it is early days for them, (they have been living together for about 2 months). I read this site and this post and I believe he will become that defensive, blaming, irresponsible, screwed up N that he is, but in the early hours of the morning when I wake up lying alone in my bed, I think about them.

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 emoticon

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