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For Love or [sign in to see URL] Social Policy

Posted: 18 Mar 2009 08:50 AM PDT

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It's not news that people occasionally get married for reasons other than
love. But this still has to be a little unusual.

The story is that Mukhtar Mai, the Pakistani woman who was gang-raped a few
years ago by order of her village council, has gotten married. After her
attack, Mukhtar refused to remain silent, successfully challenged her
rapists in court, and has become a crusader for women's rights. She
deserves to find love, right?

It's not that simple, it turns out. In getting married, she becomes the
second wife of her husband, who has begged/stalked her to marry him for
years, tried to kill himself four months ago to convince her, and
threatened to throw out his first wife if Mukhtar didn't marry him. Sounds
like a prince.

Mukhtar finally agreed to marry him with a few unusual conditions. As the
New York Times reports, "It was her concern about [the first wife], Ms.
Mukhtar said, that moved her to relent." So Mukhtar has required her
husband to take steps to provide some financial security and independence
for his first wife, transferring ownership of his home to the woman, and
giving her both land and a monthly stipend.

As for Mukhtar, she's staying in her village and says her husband can come
visit her. Not exactly the stuff of fairy tales. And yet, just as Mukhtar's
decision to speak out against her attackers helped lessen somewhat the
stigma of being a rape victim, her husband's courtship--however
unhinged--further erases the cultural belief that rape renders a woman
damaged and unwanted for life. So congrats, you two. I think.


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