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I miss him so much - I want him back!


So, you go back to your "relationship" and hope for a better ending. You walk on eggshells. You become the epitome of submissiveness, a perfect Source of Narcissistic Supply, the ideal mate or spouse or partner or colleague. You keep your fingers crossed.
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/journal78.html
 
At the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding meaning, companionship, compatibility and happiness. He is, in other words, ideal.
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq68.html
 
The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, half-truths and outlandish interpretations of events around him.
 
All abusers present with rigid and infantile (primitive) defense mechanisms: splitting, projection, Projective Identification, denial, intellectualization, and narcissism. But some abusers go further and decompensate by resorting to self-delusion. Unable to face the dismal failures that they are, they partially withdraws from reality.
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/abuse14.html
 
To victims of abuse, my advice is unequivocal:
 
LEAVE NOW. Leave before the effects of abuse - including PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) - become entrenched. Leave before your children begin to pay the price as well.
 
But, if you insist on staying (always against the best interests of yourself and your nearest and dearest) - here is a survival manual:
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/npdtips.html
 
Inverted Narcissist
 
Also called "covert narcissist", this is a co-dependent who depends exclusively on narcissists (narcissist-co-dependent). If you are living with a narcissist, have a relationship with one, if you are married to one, if you are working with a narcissist, etc. – it does NOT mean that you are an inverted narcissist.
 
To "qualify" as an inverted narcissist, you must CRAVE to be in a relationship with a narcissist, regardless of any abuse inflicted on you by him/her. You must ACTIVELY seek relationships with narcissists and ONLY with narcissists, no matter what your (bitter and traumatic) past experience has been. You must feel EMPTY and UNHAPPY in relationships with ANY OTHER kind of person. Only then, and if you satisfy the other diagnostic criteria of a Dependent Personality Disorder, can you be safely labelled an "inverted narcissist".
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq66.html
 
Living with a narcissist can be exhilarating, is always onerous, often harrowing. Surviving a relationship with a narcissist indicates, therefore, the parameters of the personality of the survivor. She (or, more rarely, he) is moulded by the relationship into The Typical Narcissistic Mate/Partner/Spouse.
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq6.html
 
It takes two to tango – and an equal number to sustain a long-term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "folie a deux" and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets – two of a myriad – of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair.
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/abusefamily.html
 
The – often involuntary – members of the narcissist's mini-cult inhabit a twilight zone of his own construction. He imposes on them a shared psychosis, replete with persecutory delusions, "enemies", mythical narratives, and apocalyptic scenarios if he is flouted.
 
The narcissist's control is based on ambiguity, unpredictability, fuzziness, and ambient abuse. His ever-shifting whims exclusively define right versus wrong, desirable and unwanted, what is to be pursued and what to be avoided. He alone determines the rights and obligations of his disciples and alters them at will.
 
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
 
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/journal79.html
 
These may also be of help - click on the links:
 
The Narcissist's Victims
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq38.html
 
Victim Reactions
 
http://personalitydisorders.suite101.com/article.cfm/victim_reactions
 
The Three Forms of Closure
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse17.html
 
Divorcing the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Psychopath - How Do I Get Rid of Him?
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/5.html
 
Traumas as Social Interactions
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/trauma.html
 
How Victims are Affected by Abuse
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily21.html
 
How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily22.html
 
How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Recovery and Healing
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily23.html
 
Surviving the Narcissist
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq80.html
 
Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders22.html
 
The Dependent Patient - A Case Study
 
http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders56.html
 
Take care.
 
Sam

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