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Compassion for Self: Gulliver's Travels

Gulliver's Travels: Illustration by Arthur Rackham can be found at Artpassions Fairy Tale Art


"For my own Part, I swam as Fortune directed me, and was pushed forward by Wind and Tide. I often let my Legs drop, and could feel no Bottom: but when I was almost gone, and able to struggle no longer, I found myself within my Depth; and by this Time the Storm was much abated." ~~From Chapter 1 of Gulliver's Travels by Jonathan Swift


Who Am I To Argue?

By Lynn S

Who am I to argue with the people in my life
Who love me just because they do, regardless of my strife?
My friends say I'm a gentle soul, devoted, kind and strong.
So, who am I to tell myself, "They surely must be wrong"?

When I think that my well is dry, my family cries, "Too soon!"
So, who am I to argue when they think I hung the moon?
It's not for me to tell them, "No, don't love a mess like me,"
When clearly they do anyway. So, why don't I agree?

Why have I heard a different voice whose judgment of me stings?
Should I believe those lies instead of all those loving things?
I didn't say those hurtful words. They were another's view,
But I'm the one who listened and decided they were true.

I've sat in judgment cold and harsh, I've been my own cruel jury,
Condemned myself for lies born out of someone else's fury.
Today I choose to view myself through eyes that see my light;
For who am I to argue love, when love is always right.

© 2004


Healing is a journey to self-acceptance which we cannot make without a few provisions in our boat. We must carry with us a good supply of gentleness and patience; a willingness to be satisfied with 'incremental improvement'; and most of all, abundant compassion, both for ourselves and others.

Learning patience with and compassion for 'self' equal to that which we extend to others is sometimes a challenge for targets who are usually 'givers'. The trick is learning that we, too, deserve what we so willingly give and that we can and should meet our own needs.

It takes time; it takes patience; it takes introspection and learning new skills. Regardless of how long or how much it takes, it is by far the most important work we will ever do.



Compassion: A Powerful Doorway to Personal Growth by Margaret Paul


"What if there was one choice you could make that would change everything in your life for the better? Actually, there is. It’s the choice to move out of judgment and into compassion for yourself and others."


The Three Elements of Self-Compassion


"Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism."

"The best way out is always through."--Robert Frost
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